"To be able always to spread an aura of goodness and peace
should be the motive of life".
- Paramhansa Yogananda
On Social Success
Even though this text was primarly written for secondary school students, its message can very well be put in application by people of all ages, social groups and living conditions. It speaks of a very important subject, as it is during our entire existence that we will have to establish social links and make conscious exchanges with the creatures who surround us. I also wish to mention that I am really not an expert on the subject, and I would even say that people who know me well come to realise rapidly enough that I can be pretty goofy on alot of social occasions ( ! ), altough that's not necessaily always a bad thing.
From what I remember from my days in secondary school, and from what I can presently observe from my experience as a young teacher: for most of us, truly harmonious social exchanges are few. A long period of attunement is often necessary to really be able to say: this person is my friend, and not simply someone I know. Why is this so ? I beleive there are 2 reasons which explain that. The first, is simply that to be able to really get along great with someone, we must have the same level of vibrations as that person. As the popular saying goes, we must be on the same wave length. Everyone has noticed that people who have affinities in the affective, intellectual and spiritual domains always tend to group themselves together. It's as if there was an invisible magnet that regroups them.
The tone of a being, his unique vibration, his aura, are what will influence his choices, according to the Law of Affinity, in choosing to create links with some people rather than others. When we enter in good communication with someone, it means that our inner instruments are adjusted to the same wave length, and easily echo one another. This is often felt, but very rarely put into words ! The clothes, the style, the social position, in one word; all outer descriptives are in reality of very little importance. The reason why we love someone or not, and especially that makes us respect the person or not, are the emanations of that person.
It is truly with that subtle life that we are constantly in relation with. Here is a very simple and perhaps even humorous exemple of this :
You go meet a friend late in the evening after work, and your hairdew is in a terrible state. We can even imagine that it is the result of an epic battle between yourself and a gigantic hairbrush ! You are not however, smelly, unclean or anything serious but you still feel indisposed anyways. You are already late and cannot give your hairstyle a new groove anywhere, so you ring the door at your friend's house ..... a bit concerned by your appearence. Now, you speak with your friend, but mechanicly only, your focus is unfortunalty fixed on your hairdew and you cannot forget the tought that you probably look like Elvis Presley's twin right now. Your friend feels that something subtle is missing in you, but he dosen't pronounce anything because he feels that it's nothing serious, but still, your conversation seems less lively than usual. This small trouble, this missing correspondance between what your thoughts are and what you are saying, creates an emptiness between your words and yourself. And the good exchange between you and your friend necessarily suffers from it. Finally, you decide to say to your friend that you are not at your best because of your hair and the constant shame ( ! That must be quite a hairdew ! ) you are feeling ..... and you both start laughing hystericly ! He is rolling on the floor laughing and you even follow him, finally happy to be releived of that uncontrollable hairdew tension. You feel "dumdum" and laugh very hard at yourself. You then both get up with your shirts full of wool and dust particles from the carpet and you can then finally start to really speak, to really do a true exchange. Why ?
Because finally, thanks to your honesty and simplicity, you are both on the same wave length ( trough laughter in this case, a wonderful wave length ! ). From this moment on, nothing does obstacle to your usual friendship and you truly have a wonderful evening, which would have been impossible for as long as an heteroclit element was present between you. this exemple, altough very much exagerated, shows with efficiency that if there isin't a peaceful inner meeting between two beings, it is impossible for them to live their friendship properly.
Now, the hairdew from the exemple can represent many things. The fear of displeasing, the desire to profit from someone's popularity to lift yourself up, the feeling of going against our profound convictions, the feelig of not being well-dressed, etc..... all these things are like screens which block us from entering with our surronding's wave length. And this surrounding can also be nature, a beautiful painting, or even, the celestial regions of the universe ..... In that sense, my earlier exemple is perhaps not as silly as it first seemed. If we observe ourselves well, we all carry to a degree or another those screens, and must learn to remove them, we must gain purity, transparency to then be able to enter in contact with the most beautiful of wave lenghts .....
Of course, it is never necessary to create a link with everyone. If you feel that a being will probably not be the best influence for you on an energetic level, if you feel that you are losing something sacred within yourself by associating yourself with someone, then for the Love of God, do not link yourself with that person even if it is the richest person on earth. Nothing can ever equivalate a feeling of well-being and especially, of dignity, within our inner kingdom. Nothing.
If you still try by every way to fit in a social group even though profoundly, you know it to be a negative influence, but do not succeed, then do not worry, but understand well. These failures are in fact; benedictions. It is better to never be accepted by those who do not deserve it, who act against the Laws of the Universe, then to succeed and lose your most precious of aspirations. If you fail often in trying to attempt something, it can sometimes be the sign that it isin't really your place. Perhaps those failures are a gift from Heaven under disguise !
When you have alot of Love within you and that you are inhabited with the sincere wish to bring something vivifying to your surroundings, in general, all will love you naturally. Even though some may envy you, eventually, they will have no choice but to capitulate before your purity. All these wonderful energies that you send troughout space will necessarily come back to you in a from or another. If however, you revolt against everyone else and think that everyone is ungood except yourself, it is very probable that you do not have enough Love, for yourself and for others. You are then perhaps hiding behind the fortress of coldness and distance, and at this moment, yes, you should definitly make more efforts to go towards others. We must always be vigilant to be able to recognize these different nuances, but in most cases, unless you are a true Genius working in secret, or a young disciple working in secret and silence to bring great things to humanity, it is always better to make the efforts to better your exchanges with people. As a general rule however, if you are a truly evolved soul, a true carrier of Light, Heaven will always place you where you should be and if by mistake, you adventure there where you should not, well Heaven ..... will "paralyse your tongue" ! It will momentarely remove from you your gifts of Life. If you are usually alive and vivifying to all but find yourself being so "poor" on certain social occasions, it is probaly the sign that you should't be there in the first place. Some spiritual beings who were giving you invisible help and gifts have left you, but do not worry, as soon as you will become just like "a fish in water" again, and by that I mean as soon as you will start making efforts to be where you usually are able to better yourself and those around you, just like magic, you will find your inner support right there waiting for you. As a soul, if you are more or less evolved, you didn't come to Earth to simply lose your time in pleasures and distractions, this is aschool, and there is work to be done ! :)
There is one thing that we must never sacrifice, and that is our integrity, our feeling of inner dignity. Sometimes, we sacrifice our best intentions and aspirations to please others who are more popular or powerful ..... but that act in a completely stupid way in the yes of Heaven and even, of our own superior nature. When we act in such a way, often by a lack of vigilance, we sacrifice the nobility of our soul, the inestimable treasures of our inner Kingdom ..... for a couple of rotten crumbs of bread (symbolicly), the adulation of very common, even sometimes mediocre persons.
( The movie “ The Chronicles of Narnia; The Lion, the witch and the wardrobe" is the perfect exemple of this. In the scene of the ice prison, even though he has completey sacrificed his honor for the mean white princess, we still see little Egmong in chains, hungry and badly treated by the white princess herself. She laughs at him while indicating at another prisonner that : "He has you betrayed you for .... s-w-e-e-t-s ..... ! ")
To really obtain the respect of others, they must feel us strong in our most elevated of inner convictions. It is the weakness of characters ( and not of personality, which is a completely different thing ! ), even the supposedly hidden weaknesses, that make others respect us or not. I have known in my years in secondary school and in my present life, certain persons who even if they were dressed as the poorest of people, had the respect and acclaim of everyone. Their audacity, great confidence in themselves and their capacity to succeed against difficult obstacles, shortly, their Dignity in itself, made everyone love them. Such beings are above the notions of popularity and personal gain, they feel strong by themselves and have no need to put on appearences before others, what they are naturally is already plenty.
These beings are free to love others, as they already appreciate themselves, and the work that their soul is doing. They are faithful to their Ideals, and that is what makes them untouchable. Their purity scares even those who would like to impose themselves trough force. Because very often, those who act in such a way, are great imposters who tremble in secret before others. They must always hide, impose, intimidate because they are missing something very important ..... the very basis of a solid character ..... the virtues !
The really beautiful beings, and that on all levels, are always the simplest and we only see them from time to time, always shining with a special something, of a secret light that whispers us their true greatness. It is these beings that the captain of the football teams ( symbolicly ) do not have the capacity to ask to the dance. They have the rightfull feeling of a certain purity, of something undescribable and simple that makes them think ;
“No, even though I can have all the girls of the schools for me, this one, she is the only one which i could never have. This one, she is the one who truly inspires me pure Love, and especially, respect and nobility. Everything fades compared to her. Her beauty, it is a spiritual beauty and even though I have everything to be popular, I truly feel mediocre in my soul in comparison with the splendours of what she emanates, like that, naturally. This woman, this woman is a wonder and i kneel before the royalty of her soul.”
This is felt, but never said. However, I am certain that they have often been perceived by many others. These wonderful beings, these rare pearls, everyone loves them without them even having to say anything. We respect them intuitively, because we feel that they have surpassed us.
These beings never sacrifice their virtues to please others. It is not when others feel that we are crawling on the floor beneath them to imitate and impress them that they appreciate us, but really when they feel us to be rich inwardly. It is when we can give something harmonious, simple and vivifying that our surroundings love us. It is when we are not afraid of being good and just, when we cease to spread calomny and negative words just to imitate absolutely ordinairy, and even sometimes mediocre people, that we truly become appreciated.
Why ? Because at this moment, we are not feeding their personality, we are not serving their eternally ungrateful inferior nature, but really, their superior nature, the angels within them, their soul of divine origin that desires to evolve and progress. It is only then that what is sublime within them truly becomes thankful, because we have known how to feed their most elevated of tendencies. We have given them true joy, assurance, faith and courage towards their spiritual aspirations, and that, they will never be able to forget it.
Such is the second reason why we so often have difficulty to enter in good communication with others, it is because in short, we enter too often in contact with their inferior nature, their personality, and not their superior nature, their individuality. When we speak to someone, to really be able to love and bring something positive, we must always see that person as a soul, and speak to that person's soul. We must consider them as divine little spark of God's great Spirit, the greatest gift which we all possess.
Here are then some words on our relationships with others. the theory is there, now all that is left is to put oursleves to work ! :)
